Friday, June 27
Posted: Friday, June 27
2 Kings 10:32-12:21
Verse of the day:
Unfriendly people care only about themselves; they lash out at common sense. (Proverbs 18:1)
When I was living in downtown Minneapolis for college, there was this incredible men’s hair salon called Men’s Dept. blocks away from the school. This salon was created for the rich and famous and I was thankful I could get in regularly with their student discount. What made the salon so lavish was how friendly the employees and managers were in making sure every experience you had with them was perfect. Aside from flawless haircuts, the salon offered a complimentary t-shirt to change into (so you didn’t get little hairs stuck on your shirt for the rest of the day), free beverages, shampooed your hair, scalp massages, and a hot towel for your face lightly enhanced with natural minerals that left your face feeling fresh and manly for the rest of the day. I loved going there because they offered an unbeatable product and created a friendly atmosphere that made me, a poor college kid, fit in with the actual rich and famous patrons.
We of course recognize the truth from today’s Proverb in everyday life - people who only care about themselves are going to be unfriendly and unlikeable. Usually the meanest people are the most selfish. They’re going to want to do things their way, on there time, how they want to do it, with who they want to do it. A selfish person is fearful of giving up control and people don’t like being around unfriendly people, unless you’re Squidward from Spongebob Squarepants. Being selfish makes us stubborn and ignorant, incapable of hearing other’s ideas because we’re so focused on our own. When we are selfish and unwilling to compromise and consider other people’s wants or needs, we close ourselves off from what that relationship can offer.
Steph and I like to joke that marriage is mostly compromise, which means never getting to do what you ACTUALLY want to do. There are times when we both want different things, but when we compromise and do things out of selflessness instead of selfishness, our relationship and experiences are so much better in almost every way! It’s so easy to see other’s acting selfish & unfriendly, but much harder to recognize when we’re doing it. It’s important as Christians that we are always putting out best foot forward as a representative of our testimony, our church, and most importantly Christ.
Today, be conscience of being selfless in your actions. Ask the Holy Spirit for help to value others above yourself and to be open to what other’s can offer your life. Some easy actions to squash selfishness in your life include becoming a better listener, asking questions about others instead of dominating the conversation, stop using people, and let others pick what you do. To end, I thought what Paul wrote in Phillipians is perfect to becoming a much more relatable and selfless person.
If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand. (Phillipians 2:3-4 MSG)
Pastor Joshua Humpa // Special Events Pastor