How To Deal With Conflict
Posted: Friday, March 13
History gives us a rather interesting account on resolution of conflict. French novelist and playwright Alexandre Dumas once had a heated quarrel with a rising young politician. The argument became so intense that a duel was inevitable. Since both men were superb shots they decided to draw lots, the loser agreeing to shoot himself. Dumas lost. Pistol in hand, he withdrew in silent dignity to another room, closing the door behind him. The rest of the company waited in gloomy suspense for the shot that would end his career. It rang out at last. His friends ran to the door, opened it, and found Dumas, smoking revolver in hand. "Gentlemen, a most regrettable thing has happened," he announced. "I missed."
I love David’s approach to conflict here. He starts by talking to God. Often when conflict arises, I jump right into the fray, attempt to take control of the situation, and then see the conflict resolved according to my satisfaction. How come my way usually makes matters worse? But David does something different; David prays. He asks God for mercy. He unloads on God and then he takes in a big breath of grace.
In Psalm 56:11, David declares, “I trust in God, so why should I be afraid? What can mere mortals do to me?” And in just eleven verses, his feelings changed though life’s realities had not. He was ready to face the challenge.
When we deal with conflict, the first thing we need to do is pray; take in God’s grace and see your life through His eye’s. How might your marriage, family, workplace, or neighborhood be different if you dealt with conflict being full of God’s grace and peace?
Conflict is inevitable in all relationships. How we deal with conflict counts.