Doing Instead Of Loving
Posted: Friday, September 18
Verse of the day:
And so the Lord says, “These people say they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote. (Isaiah 29:13)
I have a friend that just started dating a really fun girl. It’s so enjoyable and heartwarming to hear everyday how well things are going and the adventures, conversations, and simple things they do that keep their attraction blossoming. Listening to him talk about her and what yesterday was like for them brings back tender emotions of when my wife and I began to date. There’s something unique and special about a new relationship. It’s fresh, it’s new, it’s scary but at the same time exhilarating. There’s nothing quite like it.
For anyone that’s married or has been in a relationship even for a few months, all have experienced some sort of complacency. You get in a rhythm, create norms and soon enough the fueling fire that was raging at the beginning of the relationship dwindles. Sure, the fire is still there but it’s not like what it used to be. This experience is completely normal and healthy to a point - roots are being developed as time goes on that is far better and deeper than that early chemistry. The danger comes when saying, “I love you” is merely words and not a testament to the commitment to the relationship.