Eating Alone on February 15th
Posted: Wednesday, February 15
Italian restaurants consistently rank first place on Valentine’s Day. The trinity of pasta, garlic bread, and dim lighting awakens love and slows arteries. For those who went out last night, your leftovers have now re-congealed in the fridge. Solid to liquid to solid. Do the right thing; give the calories to your pet. For those who didn’t enjoy a romantic evening in counterfeit Italy, let’s have a little conversation with your starched-up friends. When it comes to February 15th, I think we have more in common than we realize.
Judy Collins is an American folk singer. In her early days, a road manger scheduled her shows and balanced her accounts without Judy ever writing a single check. One day the manager informed her that she was broke. When Judy shared this story with The New York Times, she explained, “As women, we are raised to have rescue fantasies, and I’m here to tell you, no one is coming.” Judy fired the manager immediately, and managed her own finances for the remainder of her career.
According to the US Census, 10% of Americans will never get married. 50% of adults in America are currently single. Our relationship status can make a big difference on February 14th. Some people celebrated anniversaries last night. Some went out with friends. Some stayed home without a thought, and some stayed home in a cloud of unanswered questions. Some people, like my beautiful grandmother, spent their first Valetine’s Day alone in close to 60 years.
We might have had a very different experience last night, but today, we have more in common than you might think.
If anyone of us is waiting to be rescued by a romantic relationship, we are waiting in vain. If anyone of us is waiting for a romantic relationship to complete us, we are searching in vain.
Married people, divorced people, single people, and widowed people can all make the same mistake. Companionship will never save us.
I do disagree with Judy Collins. She said, “no one is coming,” and I think she had it wrong. Someone is coming to rescue you, but it’s not your Valentine’s date. There is only one who rescues. There is only one who completes you. Take my recommendation; eat alone on February 15th and reconnect with the only one who saves.