Thou Shalt Have More Kids
Posted: Thursday, June 9
Ground rules first. We’re confining this conversation to those in a healthy Christ-centered marriage. If you’re single, continue to run through fields of daisies doing whatever you want whenever you want. I look forward to nodding and smiling the next time you tell me how confining your schedule is. Now, if you’re married but currently working through a difficult season, it may be unwise to pursue pregnancy. Babies don’t heal marriages; they test them.
The demographic remaining is fairly limited. If about 50% of Americans are married and about 35% are a childbearing age, a chosen few are responsible to perpetuate the many, and that’s just the beginning. The call to Christ-centered parenthood is far nobler than avoiding extinction. It’s about affection. It’s about laying your life down for someone else. Proverbs says, “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from Him.”
So why are we avoiding a gift? Why are we choosing control over reward? I had a friend once tell me, “We’re going to stop at 2 kids because I can’t afford private school for 3.” I’ll tell you what I told him. “I’m pretty sure your third child would happily exchange a public school education for the opportunity of life.”
I can also recall a memorable conversation with a friend who battled infertility for eight years. He said, “God blessed me with a great wife, and this world needs our children.” I couldn’t agree more. He and his wife have now adopted twice and had a surprise pregnancy this last year.