When I read verses like this, I have to admit I have a GREAT life! I have the favor of God because I have a fun, beautiful, faithful wife! At the end of this month, my wife and I will have been in a relationship for five years and in September will have been married for two years. As I reflect on the many delightful memories with Steph, it’s crazy how quick time flies by ! I’d like to brag on my bride for just a second. She’s an incredibly sweet, strong, passionate, and moral woman who will definitely make a nurturing and affectionate mom! I love her and love being married to her! Marriage is fun, and if you’re married I hope you feel the same way about your marriage!
While our marriage is not all the bliss charged awesome fairy tale moments we’d hope it to be, it has been a fun adventure that’s helped us learn more about ourselves and God. And that’s what God created marriage for. He created it to be this fun learning experience that lasts a lifetime! Finding a good spouse means a good life, (happy wife, happy life) and to find a good spouse you have to be a good spouse. Marriage makes you, or at least it should, into a better person.
Now maybe you’re reading this and thinking, “Cool Pastor Joshua. You’ve got a great marriage. Good for you. I’ve been searching for someone, but am still single and ready to mingle.” While today’s Proverb reminds us of the blessing that comes through marriage, the Bible, including Jesus himself, make it very clear that singleness is a gift from God as well! I know that may be hard to hear, and that’s what Jesus himself told his disciples when they questioned him on the matter. Jesus said in Matthew 19:11-13, “Not everyone can accept this statement. Only those whom God helps… some choose not to marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”
Paul sheds some more light on singleness explaining that when you’re single, you have more freedom to focus on God. In marriage, there’s a constant desire and need to please and care for your spouse. As a single person, those worries and responsibilities aren’t there and as Paul puts it, you’re then able to be “concerned about the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord.” Wherever you’re at today, whether single or married, you are blessed! If you’re married, be sure to enjoy your marriage and life with your spouse! It’s a gift from God not to be taken lightly. Plan a date night this week, send your wife some flowers, tell your husband how strong and awesome he is. If you’re single, own it! Being single is not always an indication that there is “something wrong” with you. Enjoy the time you get to spend with God and build on that fundamental and important relationship!