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How To Be A Good Spouse, Married Or Single

Posted: Monday, October 19

Pastor Jon Brooks // College &amp; Young Adult Pastor

Pastor Jon Brooks // College & Young Adult Pastor

One Year Bible Reading Guide:

Jeremiah 33:1-34:22
1 Timothy 4:1-16
Psalm 89:1-13
Proverbs 25:23-24 


Verse of the day:

It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home. (Proverbs 25:24)

I’ve heard it said that the only thing worse than being miserable and single is to be miserable and married! We should pay attention when Solomon talks about marriage; he had 700 wives after all and apparently Solomon had difficulty keeping them all happy. The king lived in a beautiful palace but the thought occurred to him more than once that he would be better off living alone in the attic or on the corner of the roof. Better to deal with the cold and howling wind than to endure a contentious and disrespectful woman. To be fair to the ladies, this absolutely works both ways.



What is a quarrelsome spouse? It is one who nags and cannot allow a matter to rest. It is the person who can’t stop offering their opinions, can never submit to the other out of love, can’t stop questioning what the other does and cannot stop correcting irrelevant details when their spouse speaks. If I’m describing you…stop it! Really.



In Genesis 2:18 God says "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet for him." God created marriage that we might help each other. To husbands I would say this: there is no other person your wife should receive more love, affirmation and support from than you. If someone else is showing her more love than you then you’re in big trouble. To wives I would say this: there is no other person your husband should receive more encouragement and respect from than you. If other people respect your husband more than you do then you’ve lost his heart.



If you are not married please be very careful in the selection of your mate. Pay attention if the person you’re pursuing has unending arguments with family and friends and ‘every boss they’ve ever worked for is an idiot’ because they could be the spouse that Solomon is warning about in this proverb. If you’re married allow God today to shape you into the helper your spouse needs; it will make the attic less appealing.