Hurt People Hurt People
Posted: Wednesday, May 16
1 Samuel 18:5-19:24
Verse of the Day:
“As David played his harp, 10 Saul hurled his spear at David.” (1 Samuel 19:9b-10a NLT)
David was just doing what he could to help. He was using his gifts and talents to ease the mind and spirit of his king. I wonder if David thought it was strange that the King was turning his spear over in his hands. Maybe David thought that Saul was reliving battles in the past, not knowing that the real battle that day was within the mind and heart of Saul.
It is hard to take a risk to reach out to others and help them heal. When you try to help a hurting person, you may get hurt yourself. When we are wounded, we tend to lash out at whomever is closest. The closest to us are usually those we love the most, or those that love us. So we end up hurting those that we love, because of the hurt in our own lives.
I have never had someone throw a physical spear at me, but I have felt the emotional sting of words that were hurled with veracity and venom. I have never had to flea for my life and yet how many encounters have sent me running to hide and heal.
If you have been wounded by someone close to you, know that it is difficult to reenter the “danger” and try and risk loving again. However, it is because we have a close relationship with them it gives us the ability to draw close to them again. If we draw close, they may try and hurt us again but up close is the only way to offer healing.
If you have taken a hands off approach to someone you love because of past pain, ask God for the strength to enter the danger zone once again and draw close so that healing can begin, for both of you.