Show Me Your Friends
Posted: Saturday, September 3
2 Corinthians 6:14-7:7
Verse of the day:
Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:1)
I am not sure who said it first but one of the staple one liners that all youth pastors are trained to learn is “Show me your friends, and I will show you your future.” Anyone that has lived through the triumphs and tragedies of being a teenagers knows the truth of this statement. Our friends have a huge impact and influence upon our day to day decisions. Many of the regrettable actions of our past are now permanently a part of our memory because a friend convinced us it was okay. All of us have either used our friendship power for bad and for good. Peer pressure is a powerful thing.
So when we read our verse of the day, why are we so easily offended and become defensive about the close relationships in our lives. For those of us with unbelieving family and co-workers, we quickly jump to their defense and yell, “How will they ever know Jesus if I am not a part of their life?” Are we not supposed to be a light in the darkness? Are we not supposed to have relationships with people that are not believers?
I think our offense rises because we focus on the wrong words in the verse. For us, words like unbeliever, righteousness / wickedness, and light /darkness all stand out. Those are the words Paul uses to describe people. They are labels. They are judgement word. They offend. However, what if we change our focus to words like team up, partner, live with? Those are the action words. They don’t define the people but the relationship. They don’t judge the person, but they measure the amount of influence that person has over my life.