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Tame That Temper

Posted: Wednesday, May 18

 Pastor Tom Murray // Missions &amp; Christian Education Pastor

Pastor Tom Murray // Missions & Christian Education Pastor

One Year Bible Reading Guide:

1 Samuel 22:1-23:29
John 10:1-21
Psalm 115:1-18
Proverbs 15:18-19 

 

Verse of the day:

A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel. (Proverbs 15:18)


When we are face-to-face an angry person, we have two basic options.  We can add fuel to the fire of their anger or attempt to douse the flames.

 

 

The person may be upset with us.  They may be in conflict with someone else and use us to unload.  They may have a good reason to be angry.

 

 

We worship a God of restoration.  Stirring up or contributing conflict only leads to deeper brokenness.  Calming a dispute is a step toward restoration.

 

 

As the Proverb says, “A hot-tempered person starts up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel” (15:18 NIV).

 

 

Police officers defuse conflict regularly, often several times per shift.  We can learn something from their training.  Officers use techniques called ventilation and active listening.

 

 

First, it is acceptable to allow someone to ventilate.  You give them space to blow off steam, even though their comments may be inaccurate, rude or offensive.  This is not the time to give them advice or interject your opinions.

 

 

Ventilation opens to door to active listening.  Without agreeing with the person, you can still tell them that you understand they’re upset and ask questions about their feelings.  By lowering the volume and slowing the pace, you take a big step toward rebuilding.