The Green-Eyed Monster
Posted: Monday, May 16
Let me be the first to admit that it is hard to talk about jealousy. Maybe because we’ve all felt jealous at one point or another in life, we don’t feel comfortable talking about it. Very few people would ever admit to feeling jealous.
Before I say anything else, I would like to clarify that there are two kinds (for lack of a better word) of jealousy. One is warranted jealousy; for example, a woman who is jealous because her husband is flirting with another woman. The other kind of jealousy is unwarranted. For example, a man who is jealous of his coworker for being promoted before he was.
Today, I don’t want to distinguish between these two. I just want to ask you two simple questions. What do you do when you feel jealous? How do you deal with your thoughts or feelings of jealousy? Jealousy will strike anybody at any time. Thus, it is important that you learn a healthy way of handling jealousy.
If you don’t handle your feelings of jealousy in a healthy way, they’ll destroy every single meaningful relationship you’ll ever have. The life of King Saul is a fitting example of the devastating consequences of jealousy.
After returning from a very successful military campaign, Saul heard the people chanting “Saul has killed his thousands, and David his ten thousands!” After listening to this song, King Saul’s jealousy took over his mind and it led him to seek to kill David, one of his most effective military leaders. Jealousy destroyed Saul’s peace and weakened his kingdom.
Like Iago said to Othello: “Beware of jealousy, my lord! It’s a green-eyed monster that makes fun of the victims it devours.”
With this in mind, I would like to suggest a healthy way to handle feelings of jealousy.
1. Recognize when you are having jealous thoughts.
2. Replace jealous thoughts with the Word of God.
3. Realize what events or words triggered your jealousy.
4. Restore your relationship with the person whose behavior triggered your jealousy.