Theres a Magnet in Your Soul
Posted: Monday, November 14
I grabbed my coat and headed out on a Saturday night this past August. Leaving my house at 10pm on a Saturday is rare . . . like . . . a-reality-TV-star-becomes-president rare. This was a worthy exception.
I drove north to Wauwatosa. At this point in life, a 20-minute drive in silence feels like three days at a resort. I parked the car and stepped into a bustling restaurant. I chose the restaurant because of its outdoor patio and A+ salsa. I grabbed a seat and altered focus to my next task. Would I even recognize him?
When I was 13, I left the safe harbor of elementary school for the typhoon of a public junior high. Amidst the transition, I met the first person I would ever refer to as ‘my best friend.’ It was simple. It felt . . . affirming.
A few years later, we moved to Missouri, and I completely lost contact with him. . . until about two months ago. An online search uncovered a few things. After college, my friend attended law school at Yale. He now works at a mammoth law firm in Chicago. I reached out by email and learned this whopper: my friend married a girl from Wauwatosa.
I did recognize him. As it turns out, the 33-year-old version of ourselves is pretty much a heavier, hairier replica of 13. We talked for two hours and three bowls of salsa. I drove home with a smile on my face and one question in my head.
What is this hunger? What is this human hunger for friendship? I believe each of us has a magnet imbedded in our soul. It draws children to conversation and grown men to Mexican restaurants. I know that friendship is affirming, but it’s more than mutual admiration. It’s growth. It’s progress.
Look at the friendships in your life and ask this question: why am I attracted? Humor? Talent? Resilience? Playfulness? Beauty? Strength? Mutual attraction means that each person has something to gain—an attribute they admire. That’s the hunger. That’s the exchange. Both give and both grow.
Call a friend today, or better yet . . . make a new one.