Gathering The Facts Before Duking It Out
Posted: Thursday, July 4
2 Kings 23:31-25:30
Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish. (Proverbs 18:13)
How many times have you assumed something and later realized that you didn’t have all of the facts straight? It seems like more than ever that’s what’s happening in the news - that a story is rushed and incomplete having to later be redacted to paint the full picture. There’s been many times in my own life where I’ve assumed people acted a certain way because they were clearly the most awful people in the world, when in reality there was a whole lot more going on that I didn’t know about. Then when the facts come out, who’s looking foolish and immature? You guessed it - me.
It’s easy to jump the gun because of assumptions. Guessing motivations usually ends in the wrong path. We’re most likely to believe something if we want to. We judge, confront, and hold grudges based on what we suppose was the reason. As time goes on and our feelings about the matter compound, it tends to make the situation even messier. Because for most of the time, our assumptions about motivations are wrong. When we realize all of the facts, we understand that there was more going on then we originally thought.
Developing an attitude that assumes the best of people can help us assume less and trust more. If you’ve been hurt deeply by someone, this is extremely hard to do. Why open yourself up to people when they’ve only allowed deep pain? It may seem easier to hold onto your assumptions and hurt instead of dealing with the situation, but that only poisons our own souls. The wisdom in today’s Proverb gives us a path to wise living and peaceful interactions. Listen to the facts before going off on someone. Assume the best, then proceed with the confrontation. Our relationships will be stronger and deeper when we think good of people and we’ll be loving the way that Christ loves.